Allan Pease: On Conversation Questions Part 1 of 2

November 2, 2007 | By rogerloh In Conversation | Comments(0)

Allan Pease, of ‘Body Language’ fame, gave practical on how to use ask questions to promote a conversation in his other book, Talk Language.

Personally, I have been asked by a woman very personal questions. She was a business contact that I met at a business networking session. Having agreed to meet for coffee one day, she fired her barrage of questions at me:

Question 1: Are you married?

Me: Yes

Question 2: Do you have kids?

Me: No

Question 3: Why you don’t have kids?

Me: ???

Question 4: What’s wrong?

Me: $%##!^$#$**#&$#!&^&#^&#*#!

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As you can see, I fired her after she asked her 4th question!

What’s wrong with the above scenario?

First off, I told her that this is our first meeting and she had no rights to my privacy.

Secondly - I didn’t tell her - that she did not realize how to use questions to promote a conversation …

(To be continued in Part 2 …)